Today, I decided that regardless of moving my runs indoors, running at a slower pace and giving myself a longer rest period between runs my knee has finally won. Strangely enough I didn’t feel as if I failed. I know that I will start again, but perhaps my strategy will be different this time before I decide to partake on a daily running streak. Besides, I’ve partially won! I’m still writing. And instead of running for 1 mile today, I walked for 1 mile today.
If I ever thought that running on a treadmill was boring, boy was I in for a surpise at how boring it is to walk on a treadmill! The pace was so slow it was painful. The music that I listen to had a tempo that was much too fast and so I decided to turn on a podcast. As I was walking I thought that this again is similar to life. Sometimes you need to cut out things that are hurting your growth. Maybe it’s spending too much money. Maybe its a negative force in your life. It could be all those empty calories that you’re eating.
And even though this was something that was supposed to be good for me, in my present situation it was causing more harm. And so this story will have to be…to be continued. Don’t give up on your goals. Keep finding ways to smash your obstacles no matter what life throws at you.
When it comes to a goal or a dream the most important thing that you need to figure out is why do you want to do X or Y? Do you want to run a marathon? Why? Do you want to be a millionaire? Why? Do you want to start a business? What’s your Why?
If your dream is to be rich and famous, what’s your reason behind it? There is no right or wrong answer, but you need to be truthful to yourself. Find the real answer. Did you grow up with very little and you think that being rich and famous is glamorous and will make your life better? Maybe you dream of all of the things that you will own when you have all of that money. Or perhaps it is about the recognition that you will get when people know you. It could be that you want to prove to someone that you are better than they are or what you are. Are you envious or jealous of the people that have it better than you?
The answer won’t be the same for you or anyone else because everyone is unique, but you need to make sure that you know what your real why is. Maybe it will lead you to a path about whether that goal is what you really want. Maybe you think that money and fame will mean that you will be happy.
The Japanese say you have three faces. The first face, you show to the world. The second face, you show to your close friends, and your family. The third face, you never show anyone. It is the truest reflection of who you are.
This is a pretty powerful saying that I have always thought to be quite intense. I’m sure that everyone can think of how they are different in public vs. with their family/friends vs. inside their own heads. So figure out your why and do with that what you want. You don’t need to share it if you don’t want to, but you do need to come to terms with what it really is because if you don’t you might not succeed at your task or if you do succeed, the reasons that you wanted it to happen might not give you what you thought it would.
There is an entirely different argument to be made about whether or not you should continue to go after that goal. You should examine that as well, but I think that is for another topic. Let’s focus on how to get to your why.
Let’s use the example of wanting to lose weight. Maybe you told yourself that you want to lose weight because you want to be healthy and you want to feel better. Examine where you’re at in your life right now? Are you sick and don’t feel well? Maybe that’s the case and this is really your reason. But perhaps, you feel fine and you still want to lose weight. Why? Maybe you don’t feel as strong as you used to feel and you want to get stronger because you are looking towards the future and don’t want to get sick and feel poorly.
Ok, we’re getting in a little deeper into why you want to lose weight. You’re concerned about your future health. Here’s where I would tell you to stop and think. You’re looking towards the future because you think that by losing weight it is going to keep you feeling good. Now that we know what the true goal is are there other things that can support that goal? Are you going to the doctor regularly to check for any underlying conditions that could cause you health problems in the future? Are you exercising and making sure that you are eating healthy or are you just crash dieting so that you can lose weight. Have you looked at your finances for the future? And what about your mental health? Are you taking care to make sure that you are reducing stress? Eliminating bad habits?
You see, the reason that you want to achieve a goal is more important than the goal itself because in order to really attain the ultimate goal you need to look at the big picture.
Let’s go in the other direction. Maybe you really want to lose weight because you don’t feel like your body is good enough. There are a lot of people with body image issues. Maybe its because you see the Hollywood perfect Victoria’s Secret model and you think that’s how you should look. In this case, your why can tell you a lot about your self-esteem and you need to look at why you feel that you need to be someone else.
For every goal or dream that you are looking to achieve, please look at the face that you don’t show to anyone to find out why you want to achieve that dream. It may not get you to your original dream, but it could lead to a path to a happiness that you didn’t know you needed.
We have unreal expectations about what our lives should look like. We think that every day we need to do or be better than the day before, but that’s unrealistic. We think that if we continue to work hard that every day we should be moving forward. I’ve got news for you. It’s not always going to be like that. Let’s take a look at the economy. Even when the economy is relatively stable there are still ups and downs.
Business, physical health, mental health and relationships are all like this. It’s so important to remember to keep the end goal in mind when times seem bleak. Look at the economic downturn in 2020. This isn’t just the U.S. This is a global issue. Do you think that the world’s leaders are giving up? Of course not. They need to strategize to weather the storm and figure out a way to come out the other side. It may not bounce right back to where we were previously, but it’s necessary to keep moving forward.
I think the most underutilized profession right now is a Life Coach. Everything is connected. Your mental health affects your physical health, your financial status affects your relationships. Your spiritual feelings can affect your emotional state. Your friends can affect your behaviors and attitudes. Your work life can affect your family life. It’s all a circle. And whether you are in a good place, a bad place or an ok place you can’t escape the fact that all of this is connected.
So when you have a bad day in one aspect of your life, chances are that it might affect other aspects of your life. How many of us have had a bad day at work and come home and argued with our family because we were in a foul mood? Then maybe that upsets you and so you decide that instead of going to the gym, you’re going to eat a pint of ice cream on the couch and mindlessly stare at the TV. Or maybe you’re the opposite and you go to the gym to get out all of that pent up anger and feel better (either before you pick a fight with your family or after).
The point is that some days you’re going to be up and some days you’re going to be down and that’s completely normal. Just remember that as a human being this is a normal part of life and you’re not the only person that feels like that. Keep moving forward and remember that every day isn’t going to be your best day.
What are some of the ways that you come back from a bad day?
As I continue to move forward with my running streak, it occurs to me that there are a lot of metaphors that I running has with every day life. Whether it is your personal or professional life, running (or I guess any habit for that matter) can really teach you about how to succeed.
Day 9 – Since my knee is very obviously telling me that I need to give it time to heal, I decided to change up my routine that will still allow me to get in my 1 mile per day. Here’s what I’ve learned:
You have to be smart and know your limits. When I run I have very little pain in my knee, but when I’m done, I know that I’ve exceeded what my body wanted me to do and the rest of the day will remind me that I overdid it. Just like in real life, you need to keep moving forward, but you need to do it intelligently or you risk destroying your progress so far. If you’re looking to change your habits, you can’t do to much at once or you risk the chance of overload and you might crash because you are so overwhelmed.
It’s so important to be adaptable. Instead of running every morning, I decided to try to run at morning one day and at night the next. This still allows me to continue to run every day, but instead of only a 24-hour recovery period, I will get a 36-hour recovery that hopefully will assist me in the long run. I’ve also slowed my pace and stayed on the treadmill instead of hitting the pavement. It’s slower progress, but it’s still forward moving progress. Have you hit an obstacle in your life? You need to find a way around it. The best laid plans don’t always go according to their plans. You need to be able to swerve off of the road sometimes when there is something in your way as long as you continue to move towards your goal no matter what it might be. If you were trying to pay off your bills, but your car broke down and you needed to put your money that month towards that expense, that’s ok. Next month, just get back on the same track and keep moving forward. Don’t let that detour you from continuing on your goal. It may have set you back, but you’re still moving forward.
You are unique and the way that you reach your goals should be too. Yes, you can listen to other success stories, but what works for them might not be the thing that works for you. That’s ok because you are not that other person. Stop comparing yourself to other people and focus on what is right for you and things will work out. One of the benefits that I found of running at 9pm last night was that I slept amazing! But I can tell you that almost every article I have ever read about exercise has said try not to work out late at night because it might interfere with your sleep. I felt great running last night and great running this morning. Now maybe there is another factor in there, but it worked for me. Find your own unique path to create the path to your goals.
If nothing changes, nothing changes. So many people have quoted this line and I’m not sure where it originated from. Think of this as a positive. Maybe this new method of running will work for me for a while and then I will be able to start moving on with my goal. Maybe its a fluke and by next week I will have to try something different. Whichever happens, good or bad, I need to take something from it. After all, if I need to make additional modifications in order to move forward, I will, even if the worst case scenario means that I need to rest and start over. But isn’t that better than continuing to do the same thing over and over again and never moving forward? Sometimes when we keep doing the same thing day after day or year after year we find ourselves in the same pattern of life that we’re tying to change. But if you don’t decide to do something different, how will you get different results? We’ve all heard Albert Einstein’s saying “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results”. Don’t do that with your life!
What are you doing to change and adapt that is going to propel you closer to your goal?
My biggest pet peeve when going to an interview is when person doing the interview comes out with the same questions that they’ve asked every single person.
“So what do you know about our company?”
“Tell me about a time that there was conflict in the workplace and what you did about it.”
“What are your strengths?”
“Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”
I understand the need to follow a guideline for a candidate, but if you already have a person’s resume you should already know if the have the qualifications to do the job.
And seriously…. how many people have you interviewed that said “When there’s conflict in the workplace I freak out and cause trouble”.
Your candidates are going to tell you what they think you want to hear. They’ve probably done their research on the best way to answer interview questions. But guess what? You really need to hire for someone that will fit in your organization not just someone who checks the boxes. You should be interviewing to enrich your corporate culture.
Have a conversation with that person. It’s so much more comfortable to just engage in small talk and openly converse than it is to switch topics abruptly in a firing squad-like Q&A. Once your candidate is more at ease your going to see the real person come out. This is what you should be aiming for. Leave your Q&A to your pre screen questions.
And most importantly make sure whoever you choose to do the interviewing is capable. I could turn your head with some of the crazy questions I’ve heard and the strangest things that I’ve seen the interviewer ask.
If the person doing the interviewing isn’t an effective communicator you probably won’t be getting much out of that interview. Your candidate is going to take their cues from you. It’s your job to get the real person to speak in that 30 minutes that you might have.
A poor hire can make for a very difficult future work environment.
What’s the craziest thing you’ve heard asked or been asked on an interview?